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Ego Fortification, Change Agent II

The process emphasizes the important part the patient has to play in his own healing. He cannot sit back with an air of entitlement and expected to be healed. This cannot work in psychotherapy although it might work in normal medical practice. The patient plays the most important role in his own healing.

He also plays the most important role in healing from a medical condition as well; here too the doctor and his therapies could be regarded as change agents. This principle is widely applicable to all self improvement: no one can uplift you or empower you or educate you. they can only assist, but the major effort has to come from you. This is where attempts to uplift poor communities often fail and it can be heartbreaking to see all those who expect everything to be done for them when this can never work.

Once you have enough knowledge of the procedures and Transactional Analysis, then you could undertake subsequent treatment of other problems on your own. However, getting to the root cause in order to be able to re-decide can be tricky and an experienced therapist may be found necessary for this step.

At work you could possibly play the role of a mentor, but this might be regarded as an invasion of privacy. Perhaps the best you can really hope for is to use the techniques of the therapist and to try to "hook the adult" of people you deal with, including your own family.

A relationship which is Adult-Adult is much less threatening than the common Parent-Child/Child-Parent one. If you find that a co-worker has particular problems, you might hint at the benefits you arte getting, but be careful not to seem to have an axe to grind.

Perhaps the best people to help with your new change agent skill might be your own family. Emotional involvement might make this difficult, but achieving an Adult-Adult relationship could be an important step and may help defuse emotions. You can become over-enthusiastic when you experience the benefits for yourself, but you have to have realized you have a problem and seek change. Because it requires co-operation it cannot be imposed from outside.

The change agent you mobilize is just what the name suggests; someone who assists with change but cannot mandate it. This is one of the things that makes treating these problems so difficult.



(continued from part I)

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